Sometimes it can feel like you have to be an expert in female psychology to do well with women.  Just when you think you know what is going on and what you need to do to make a woman like you,  you'll have one of those experiences that just proves that you don't know as much as you thought you did.  It would be nice to feel like you know a few female psychology secrets that other guys don't,  so that you don't have to go through those kinds of experiences and so that you can do better with women than most average guys do.

These 3 female psychology secrets to attract women are going to help you attract women right away:


1.  Women say that they want to meet a guy who is nice and polite,   but if you don't show a woman that you have the balls to approach her,  it doesn't matter how nice and polite you are.

This is one of those "secrets" that some guys do eventually come to know and when they do,  they wish that they could go back and tell themselves not to try to be one of those nice and polite guys who never really ever approaches women.  Look,  it's not a bad thing to be a nice guy and I am not saying that you have to turn into an a******e to attract a woman.  However,  if you don't have the balls to approach a woman,  don't expect her to be turned on and attracted to you.

2.  A woman will be much more likely to be turned on by you if you are able to make her feel secure around you.

Being able to make a woman feel like she is totally secure and safe when she is around you is a big deal.  It's one of the reasons why women tend to be attracted to men who look like they can protect a woman.  You don't have to be a body builder to give a woman the sense that you can protect her and make her feel secure.  One of the things that you can do is to show her that you are calm in just about any situation and she'll feed off of that vibe and feel a sense of security and safety.

3.  If you can get a woman to commit to competing with another woman for your affection,  you'll end up having a chance to be with her easily.

This is one of those things that most guys never learn because no one really tells you that this works.  Women won't because they are not aware of the fact that they do this or they just don't want to admit it.  Men don't because the ones that do know that this works know just how well it does and it becomes one of those female psychology secrets that they don't want to share with others.  Being able to make a woman feel like she has to compete with another and make her feel attracted to you enough that she commits to competing with that women is one of the easiest ways to end up hooking up with her.

You've gotten her phone number and it is clear that she is definitely attracted to you and you like that.  However,  the doubts start to creep in,  the low expectations start to come back and now,  you are wondering whether or not you are really going to be able to make her want you.  If there was one thing that bad boys who attract women easily know,  it's that you can't make things harder on yourself than they already are.  When you overthink things to the point where you start to second guess your successes... you are setting yourself up for eventual failure.

All you have to do is to stop making it so hard on yourself and just let it happen.

Once you have already gotten her phone number and you know that she is attracted to you,  all you have to do is BUILD on that attraction.  When you start to get pessimistic and you start to worry about losing her attraction,  that is when you are going to eventually lose that attraction that she feels.  You don't want to lose that attraction,  so DON'T.

Stop overthinking things and just let it be.

Call her up.  Have some fun.  Get a date with her and then work on wowing her and making her feel like her attraction for you is growing.  Don't start thinking that she is going to change her mind or that you are going to end up messing things up.  You won't if you are relaxed and having a good time.  You will if you start to overthink things and you start to allow your doubts and your worries creep in and confuse you and make you feel like you don't know what you are doing.

I know that deep down inside,  you are more than just a little bit curious about what it might be like if you were actually good at seducing women.  Sure,  there might be a part of you that seems to be skeptical about whether or not you have the skills to try and seduce a woman,  but you have to admit that it would be a lot of fun if you knew how to approach a woman and make her feel like she is totally attracted to you.

Here are 3 seduction tips that just can't be ignored if you want to get good at seducing women:


1.  You have to become a master at approaching women with confidence.

Don't feel like you have the confidence to approach a woman?  Well,  then you are going to have to build confidence with women because without it,  you really don't stand much of a chance.  Now,  just feeling confident is not enough to make women suddenly feel hot for you,  but not having any confidence around women is a sure way to end up losing any chance that you might have had of being able to hook up with her.

2.  Women want to be around guys who know how to have fun,  not guys who complain all of the time.

I used to hang out with this one guy once in a while and he was really bad when it came to women.  And while he would come up with all of these excuses for why that was,  most of the time it came down to the fact that he just wasn't that fun to be around.  So,  even if he did meet a woman,  she'd want to bail after talking to him for a few minutes because he was always finding something to complain about.

3.  Knowing what it takes to make a woman feel sexually attracted to you makes all of the difference.

What makes the difference between a guy who is good at being friends with women versus a guy who is really good at ending up in bed with women?  The ones that know how to get a woman into bed are able to make a woman feel sexually attracted to them.  If you can make a woman feel like she is really attracted to you on a sexually level,  seducing a woman isn't that difficult at all.

Do you really want to become more of a bad boy when it comes to getting women?  If so,  then you might want to ditch those dating rules for men that every dude seems to want to follow and become a rule breaker this year.  You don't want to have anything hold you back from having success with women,  and one thing that will definitely hold you back is if you pass up making the move on a woman you like all because you are trying to blindly follow some rules on dating that you think you are supposed to follow.

They are only guidelines anyway.

If you study human behavior in any regard,  then you should know that there are no absolutes.  Since dating is all about human behavior and the interactions between men and women,  there are no absolutes in this arena,  either.  So,  if there is one resolution that you should make this year -  it is to STOP following the rules if they seem to get in the way of your success with women.

Of course,  you should have OTHER goals or resolutions as well.

You don't want to become so one dimensional that all you think about is how to get better with women.  The funny thing about it is,  if you do become one of those guys who only thinks about getting better with women -  you'll probably get worse because being one dimensional like that just isn't all that attractive.  It doesn't give you much to talk about,  either.

Set some goals or some resolutions,  just make sure that one of them is to become a rule breaker of sorts if you want to genuinely enjoy being a bad boy.

So,  you have a girlfriend who is good to you and even though you are a little bit of a bad boy,  you still want to do a good thing and get her a gift.  Nothing wrong with that.

Here are a few ideas that might help you out:

1.  Sexy lingerie.

Nothing is better than buying your girlfriend a gift that she is going to like... and you are going to enjoy as well.  Grabbing a little sexy lingerie to give your girlfriend as a gift is always a good way to go.  Check out Victoria's Secret and get some help from one of the clerks if you want to know what will be a "classy" piece of lingerie to give to your girlfriend.

2.  Champagne or wine.

If she likes to drink either,  giving her a good bottle of the white or the red or even the bubbly is always a good idea.  Best part is... it's another gift that you are going to get to enjoy as well.  Plus,  it can set the mood for an overall romantic night,  so it can be a catalyst for some other fun as well.

3.  Take her to a concert.

It's always a good thing to make your girlfriend happy and one thing that will definitely make her joyful is scoring some tickets to a concert that you know she is going to enjoy.  Even if it happens to be a group that you don't like,  go ahead and do it.  She will thank you later.  And I do mean "thank" you.

LOL,  you definitely don't want women to see you do this...

Definitely don't be the guy  wearing too much cologne,  either.

There is one thing that I have seen time and time again prove to be effective if you really want to get over your insecurities around women and that is... IMMERSE YOURSELF in what makes you insecure.  Now,  I wouldn't do this all at once,  that can end up proving to be a little bit too much.  However,  if you think that you are going to somehow get over your insecurities around women by avoiding women... it's just not going to happen.

MAKE ONE APPROACH PER DAY -

This is an exercise that can seem kind of daunting at first,  but it can end up proving to really help you feel totally secure and confident around women.  Make one approach per day.  In 30 days,  that will mean that you have now approached 30 women.  Most guys don't talk to 30 women in 30 days,  so you'll have the leg up when it comes to experience.  What you should find,  though,  is that it starts to not just get easier to approach a woman,  but also that it gets FUN.

You might even find that you want to make more than just one approach per day and that's fine.

If you are a sports guy like I am,  then you know that the guy that makes the game winning shot doesn't just take that one shot and watch it go in,  right?  He takes thousands and thousands of shots in practice,  in games,  in his backyard before he gets that "one."  That same principle applies when it comes to approaching women.

You might approach dozens of women before you find that one that really takes your breath away.  The difference is,  if you are no longer insecure around women,  you will probably end up getting her.  That's the ultimate goal,  right?  To get that one woman that you never thought you could.  And it can happen as long as you immerse yourself and start putting yourself in situations that you struggle with.

DON'T LET YOUR INSECURITY KEEP YOU FROM GETTING THE GIRL -

No matter what,  you don't want to let any insecurities that you might have around women keep you from getting that girl that you really want.  How bad would it feel to know that she was there and all you had to do was walk up to her and talk to her,  and you couldn't do it?

That would have to be one of the worst feelings in the world.  The only way that you can rise up against your insecurities is to actually rise up.  You can't shirk away and just hope that they will go away.

It's one of those lessons that sometimes,  you really don't get it until you have an experience that 'forces' you to get it.  It's also one of the best ones that you can learn if you want to maintain your sanity.  You can't force a woman to like you and all of that time and energy that you might spend trying to make her feel that way... could be spent on something else like mingling with women who don't have to be forced to want to spend time with you.

Recently,  I was bringing up this point to a guy who was telling me about this woman he's had a crush on for a couple of years.  Digging deeper,  I found out that there were a couple of other women in his life that he thought might like him,  but for some reason he was stuck on that one who didn't feel that way.

I asked him if he thought the other women were good looking.  He said he did.

So,  I asked the obvious -  why was he wasting all of that time on that one he couldn't get,  when there were a couple that he probably could get and he thought they were good looking.

He gave me that look like a light bulb went off.

I saw him a little while after that... and he had made the move on one of the 'others' and he was dating her.

I asked him about the one he couldn't get and you know what?

He said he didn't care about that anymore.

There is a lesson there.

It's the last thing that you want to happen when you feel like you are in a good relationship.  Doing something that is going to kill a good thing is probably not high on your list of things to do,  yet sometimes,  you can do it without even realizing it.  If you are in a relationship right now and you are hoping that it is going to last,  it might be a good idea to become aware of some of the things that you can do that will potentially put you at risk for losing that good thing that you've got going.

Here are 5 almost guaranteed ways to kill a good relationship:

1 -  Getting jealous when guys flirt with her in front of you.

Dating a woman who looks good can be hard sometimes,  just because of the fact that you know other guys are going to think she is attractive.  That also usually means that some of them are going to flirt with her right in front of you and as much as you might hate that -  you can't let her see you get all jealous about it.  It's not like it is something that she can control,  if a guy wants to flirt with her,  he's probably going to do it.  What you have to keep in mind is that you are still the guy who is actually dating her and that guy who is flirting with your girlfriend probably wishes that he could be you.

2 -  Making her choose you over her friends.

There was this one woman that I dated for about a year and to be honest,  I couldn't really stand most of her friends.  They just were not the kind of people that I would hang out with on my own.  The only time I would be around those kind of people was when I was with her.  You know what,  though?  I didn't let her know it.  Most of the time,  if you try to make a woman choose between her friends and you,  you aren't going to like the results.  Even if she does end up choosing you,  that doesn't mean that she isn't going to harbor some animosity towards you for making her make that choice.  Just deal with it and know that at the end of the night,  it's her that you are going to be with anyway.

3 -  Telling her too much about previous relationships.

Women do usually want to know about your past relationships,  but that doesn't mean that they want to hear the whole story or hear about them too often.  Telling her what she needs to know when she wants to know it is one thing,  but revealing too much about previous relationships can end up being a relationship killer.  Even if it doesn't kill it outright,  it can make things seem tense and uncomfortable when the subject comes up and there is no real reason for that.

4 -  Talking negatively about her family.

You might think that her brother is a complete bore and her dad is just flat out annoying and that her sister sleeps around too much,  however,  you might also want to keep those things to yourself.  Bringing that kind of thing out into the open will usually just make things worse between you and her and there isn't much of an incentive to tell her how you really feel about her family.  Take it on the chin when you have to spend time with them if you don't care for them too much,  but don't make a point of telling her how you really feel if that is just going to end up being a negative discussion.

5 -  Cheating on her.

Of course this is one of those "duh" kind of statements,  but it still has to be said.  If there is one thing that can kill a relationship rather quickly,  it is cheating.  Just because you might have wandering eyes,  it doesn't mean that you need to act on anything and the moment that you do -  is the same moment that you might effectively be saying good bye to your girlfriend and destroying the relationship at the same time.  Keep it in your pants if you want the relationship to have a chance at lasting.

So what happens when you do screw things up and your relationship unravels and your girlfriend becomes your ex?

Check this site out:  http://geturgirl.com/index.php?p=1_6_Get-Your-Ex-Girl-Back where you can download a free guide on getting back your ex girlfriend.

This video has some good advice as well if you want to see things from a woman's perspective dealing with trust,  which can also end up killing a good relationship when there is a lack of trust.

It can be kind of hard to stop being this way if it is the way that you have been for a long time,  but if you really want to make women see you as an alpha male type,  you have to stop trying to be everything to everyone.  Being the kind of guy who will let people run all over him and take advantage of you is definitely not going to make women think of you as being an alpha male in the slightest.  It also probably doesn't feel that good if you tend to be that guy that gets taken advantage of.

There are plenty of women who will do that,  if they know that they can.

Let me tell you a story about Mark.

Mark is a good guy.  He wants people to like him and he is always quick to lend a helping hand.  Sometimes that means that he gets taken advantage of.  Mark goes out to a club one night and meets Mandy.  Mandy is pretty,  she knows how to come across as really sexy and alluring and Mark is smitten from the moment that he lays eyes on her.  She can tell right away just the kind of guy he is.  She flirts with him,  she leads him on.  He takes her home that night,  but not in the way that you are thinking.  He drives her back to her apartment and drops her off.  Doesn't even bother to go in for the kiss because he doesn't want her to think he is just trying to get her in bed or something.

Over the course of the next few weeks,  Mark is still smitten by Mandy.  He calls her up all of the time,  whenever she implies that she needs something,  he just happens to go out and buy it for her.  They spend a lot of time with one another,  but never really get physical.  She pecks him on the lips real quickly every now and again and that is all that it takes to keep Mark coming back for more.

Next thing you know,  Mark has spent a couple grand on Mandy and she is still not even his girlfriend.  He kind of thinks that she is,  but she is totally not.  They go out to a club together and Mark swears that they are going as a couple.  While they are there,  Mandy locks eyes with Travis.  Travis is a bad boy,  wouldn't spend a dime on her and is totally about trying to get her into bed.

Before the night is over,  Mandy is fooling around with Travis in the corner of the club.  Mark is standing against the wall,  still a little naive to what is actually going on.  Mandy comes back to him and tells him that she is going to stay and that he can go home if she wants to.  Finally,  Mark gets it.  He sees her run back over to Travis and he sees Travis palming her backside.  Mark goes home alone,  feeling like a loser,  his bank account near empty.

There are a lot of Marks out there and there definitely are a lot of Mandys.  You don't want to be a Mark and end up getting played like that.  It will happen,  though,  if you are the type that tries to be everything to everybody,  because women like Mandy can spot you from a mile away and they KNOW how to get what they want from you.