Trying to Focus on What is Possible

Sometimes guys want help with their relationships and what they are asking for isn't really possible.  I had one guy ask me one time if there was a way that he could somehow break up a relationship so that he could get his ex girlfriend back.  I guess they had split sometime back and he wanted her back,  but she ended up meeting a new guy that she married.  I told him it was impossible,  but even if it was possible,  why would a guy want to go and do that?

You might find yourself in a situation where you are trying to do the impossible and that is setting yourself up for failure most likely,  but definitely it will make you unhappy.

Let's say that guy had broken up that marriage but didn't get his ex back,  just caused massive amounts of heart break and pain.  What would that achieve?  Would it make him feel any better or make his love life somehow fulfilling?

Doubt it.

It's much better to try and focus on what is possible.

Not to say that you shouldn't stretch yourself,  you definitely should.

Still,  sometimes you just have to admit that certain things are not going to happen.

And be cool with it.

That's part of having the right mindset,  to be honest.

Is it possible to hook up with that celebrity you have a crush on?

Probably not.  Unless you plan to move out to Hollywood and star in a few films.

Is it possible to hook up with a woman who looks a lot like that celeb you have that crush on?

You bet.

Instead of focusing in on that one woman that you can't get... why not focus on the ones that you can get?