When you get rejected by a woman, how do you handle it? Does it devastate you? Does it wreck your confidence? Or do you see it for what it really is, feedback and nothing more than that?
If you are like most guys, you probably don't see it as being just feedback. You probably do take it to heart. You probably do allow it to mess with your mind and tear down your confidence.
You don't have to allow it to tear your confidence down, though.
You can retrain yourself to see it as being feedback and nothing more than that.
Rejection can be useful. You can learn from it and if you do learn from it, it can make you better.
Let's look at an example of what I mean:
You see a beautiful woman standing at the bar and you decide that you are going to go ahead and approach her. You have a line that you are going to use and as you walk up to her, you say your line thinking that she is going to fall for it. She doesn't. You turn back around and have to deal with the fact that it didn't work out the way that you wanted it to.
In that kind of situation, most guys will either feel really bad about themselves or they will say something negative about the woman so that they can protect their ego.
What they could have done is to look at WHY they got rejected and inspect to see if there was anything that they could have changed or done differently.
See, if you look at it from that perspective, rejection from a woman becomes a chance to get better. To learn to do things a bit differently.
If you are like most guys, you probably don't see it as being just feedback. You probably do take it to heart. You probably do allow it to mess with your mind and tear down your confidence.
You don't have to allow it to tear your confidence down, though.
You can retrain yourself to see it as being feedback and nothing more than that.
Rejection can be useful. You can learn from it and if you do learn from it, it can make you better.
Let's look at an example of what I mean:
You see a beautiful woman standing at the bar and you decide that you are going to go ahead and approach her. You have a line that you are going to use and as you walk up to her, you say your line thinking that she is going to fall for it. She doesn't. You turn back around and have to deal with the fact that it didn't work out the way that you wanted it to.
In that kind of situation, most guys will either feel really bad about themselves or they will say something negative about the woman so that they can protect their ego.
What they could have done is to look at WHY they got rejected and inspect to see if there was anything that they could have changed or done differently.
- Maybe the line wasn't good at all.
- Maybe using a line wasn't the best way to open her and create rapport.
- Maybe you didn't create any rapport at all, so she just saw you as being some strange guy trying to talk to her.
See, if you look at it from that perspective, rejection from a woman becomes a chance to get better. To learn to do things a bit differently.
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