I am usually not one who is big on any mindset talk, just because it usually ends up getting all New Age really quickly and that's just not my thing. However, I am going to try to talk about having the right mindset for attracting women and getting a girlfriend without going into a spiel that makes it sound like you can magically attract a woman into your life.
The average mindset of a guy who isn't doing all that well with the ladies is that he kind of doesn't think that he really has a chance with most women and he feels like he should be grateful for whatever female attention that he can get. I know plenty of guys who look at dating in that way, and they usually don't end up with their dream girlfriend or even their dream relationship situation.
They usually end up being frustrated and saying things like, "I'd like to go the game, but you know the girlfriend won't let me."
Or, they end up being the guy who buys drinks for just about every girl in the club, but they go home alone.
Either way, they aren't really having that much fun and that's a shame.
When you change the way that you see things and you feel like you DO deserve to have a great woman in your life, you DO deserve to be able to do the things that you want, and you DON'T have to buy things for women to like you... things will change and it is all because you are coming from a different state of mind.
Instead of hoping that a woman will pay attention to you and being thrilled if she does, you'll know that you deserve female attention and it shouldn't come at the cost of your wallet, your dignity, or your way of life.
So, what exactly do you need to do to cultivate that kind of mindset so that it is easier for you to get a girlfriend?
1) You need to be willing to walk away from a woman. If you don't have that willingness, then you will put up with anything. You'll be that guy who has a girlfriend that treats him like dirt and you'll take it. Or, you'll be that guy that gets put in the friend zone and doesn't have a chance of being anything other than a guy who will do a woman favors when she needs them.
2) You need to be confident enough in yourself to know that you deserve female attention. You really can't expect to get attention unless you feel like you do deserve it, otherwise you'll make yourself small in social situations and then wonder why you aren't getting much play from women at all.
3) You need to understand that rejection is a part of this game and its not that big of a deal. Having this kind of mindset will allow you to bounce back when you don't get a warm response from a woman. It'll allow you to move on to the next one until you find the one that you actually click with.
The average mindset of a guy who isn't doing all that well with the ladies is that he kind of doesn't think that he really has a chance with most women and he feels like he should be grateful for whatever female attention that he can get. I know plenty of guys who look at dating in that way, and they usually don't end up with their dream girlfriend or even their dream relationship situation.
They usually end up being frustrated and saying things like, "I'd like to go the game, but you know the girlfriend won't let me."
Or, they end up being the guy who buys drinks for just about every girl in the club, but they go home alone.
Either way, they aren't really having that much fun and that's a shame.
When you change the way that you see things and you feel like you DO deserve to have a great woman in your life, you DO deserve to be able to do the things that you want, and you DON'T have to buy things for women to like you... things will change and it is all because you are coming from a different state of mind.
Instead of hoping that a woman will pay attention to you and being thrilled if she does, you'll know that you deserve female attention and it shouldn't come at the cost of your wallet, your dignity, or your way of life.
So, what exactly do you need to do to cultivate that kind of mindset so that it is easier for you to get a girlfriend?
1) You need to be willing to walk away from a woman. If you don't have that willingness, then you will put up with anything. You'll be that guy who has a girlfriend that treats him like dirt and you'll take it. Or, you'll be that guy that gets put in the friend zone and doesn't have a chance of being anything other than a guy who will do a woman favors when she needs them.
2) You need to be confident enough in yourself to know that you deserve female attention. You really can't expect to get attention unless you feel like you do deserve it, otherwise you'll make yourself small in social situations and then wonder why you aren't getting much play from women at all.
3) You need to understand that rejection is a part of this game and its not that big of a deal. Having this kind of mindset will allow you to bounce back when you don't get a warm response from a woman. It'll allow you to move on to the next one until you find the one that you actually click with.
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